The Let Them Theory

“The Let Them Theory” by Mel Robbins is an original method that teaches you what happens when you stop trying to control others and start focusing on yourself.

The phrase “Let Them” allows you to let go of the pressure of managing other people’s emotions and expectations. This release allows you to live your life without seeking the approval of others. It is not your business how they react or feel about your life. Trying to fix or control what other people think or do leaves you feeling drained and stuck. 

To regain control of your life, you have to implement the second step of the method, which is “Let Me.” Let Me shifts your focus inward. By saying, “Let me walk away,” or “Let me set a boundary,” you are channeling something very powerful. You are reclaiming your personal power while also choosing peace.

This two-step method can help to transform your mindset when it comes to your relationship with others as well as yourself. When you stop trying to change things you can’t control, you gain clarity, confidence, and contentment. 

Mel Robbins is a best-selling author and motivational speaker. Robbins is a former CNN legal analyst who is known for inspiring personal growth. Other books of hers include “The 5 Second Rule” and “The High 5 Habit.” Robbins also hosts a podcast called The Mel Robbins Podcast, where she offers research-backed advice in an easy-to-implement way.