How To Know A Person

Truly and deeply understanding another human being is more than just actively listening. Understanding involves us putting aside our own perspectives and narratives to make space for others. 

Every single person we encounter carries a rich perspective that’s shaped by their culture, upbringing, and past experiences. Many unseen challenges and factors influence us and others, from how we speak to how we see the world, to our specific needs and wants. 

“How To Know A Person” by David Brooks teaches us to approach conversations with curiosity, rather than judgment. This method suggests we take the time to ask thoughtful questions, offer our full attention, and create a safe space for others to share. 

Getting to know someone is never easy. It requires patience, presence, and persistence. But it makes people feel worthy, special, and cared for. By learning to see people for the unique individual they are, we are promoting deep, healthy, and compassionate connections. 

David Brooks is an author, commentator, and journalist known for his insightful analysis of culture, politics, and human behavior. He is a longtime columnist for The New York Times. He has also written for other prestigious publications, including The Atlantic. As a face in broadcast journalism, he serves as a political and cultural commentator on PBS NewsHour. As an author, Brooks has written several influential books that blend journalism, sociology, and personal reflection and explore how people navigate meaning, identity, and community.