13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do Book Summary

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13 Things Mentally Strong People Do by Amy Morin offers practical strategies for building mental resilience and emotional strength. The book outlines habits that mentally strong people cultivate, such as taking responsibility for their actions, embracing change, managing emotions, and setting healthy boundaries. It also discusses harmful behaviors to avoid, like dwelling on the past or resenting others' success, providing actionable insights for personal growth and overcoming challenges.

About the Author

Amy Morin is a psychotherapist and international bestselling author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. She lectures at Northeastern University. She talks about mental strength to people across the world. Her writing attracts millions of people per month. She gave a TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong,” that attracted over 10 million viewers.

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Self Development Psychology

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Happiness and success are things we are all striving for. And in order to achieve these goals in our lives, it is important to live life to its fullest.

In order to make this happen, it is important to be mentally strong. However, being mentally strong is not an innate gift, and instead it is something that people can train themselves for.

With 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, Amy Morin reveals tips, tricks, and solutions for how one can gain the mental strength needed to control your emotions, think rationally, and generally handle situations that are typically stressful.

And while it is important to note that mental strength can help improve one’s overall mental health, these two things do not go hand-in-hand. Rather, you can be mentally strong and have a mental health issue. But with mental strength, you can handle your symptoms with a realistic outlook on life and improvement on one’s attitude toward your mental health.

Where to begin improving mental strength.

The key to improving one’s mental strength is identifying the different behaviors and thoughts associated with what is holding you back. There are 13 traits that Morin points to as being maladaptive behaviors.

The 13 traits to be mindful of are: feeling self-pity, allowing others to influence your actions and thoughts, refusing to change, constantly living in the past, being a people pleaser, always wanting to be in control, wanting to be recognized immediately for your actions, having an expectation of success immediately, feeling envy over other people’s successes, making the same mistakes over and over again, giving up quickly, avoiding your own company, and not taking enough “mitigated” risks.

All of these traits are considered to be those that someone with a weaker mental strength would engage in. Instead, to be someone with real mental strength, it is important to avoid these traits and focus on positivity and working to overcome the challenges put in your path.

Self-pity should be replaced with gratitude to gain mental strength

Mentally strong people are people who do not indulge in self-pity when things don’t go their way. Instead, it is about being grateful for the opportunity to learn something new. It is about not feeling knocked down when things are not going your way.

Never see an obstacle in front of you, but rather look at whatever is in front of you as a new opportunity. Think of the challenges you face as a gift to be thankful for, rather than something that is there to stop you.

By being more grateful, you will not only improve your mental strength, but also your physical health and wellness. In fact, a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology has indicated that people who choose to be grateful for things are more likely to deal with less aches and pains, while even having an improved immune system.

Gratitude might seem like something to brush off, but it is clearly very important, particularly when looking at one’s mental strength.