How to Be Single and Happy

The central message of How to Be Single and Happy is that happiness is not something granted by relationship status but something cultivated internally through intentional action and psychological skill. Romantic partnership is neither the sole route nor a guaranteed path to fulfillment. Joy and meaning arise from nurturing emotional resilience, aligning life with personal values, investing in varied forms of connection, practicing self-compassion, breaking free of rumination, and engaging fully with life rather than waiting for a partner to validate one’s worth.

By shifting attention from what is missing to what is possible, individuals gain agency, build confidence, and create lives that feel full—whether or not romantic love enters the picture. Ironically, when people stop chasing love desperately and instead build meaningful lives, they often become more open and equipped for healthy relationships. But the deeper victory is discovering that one’s value is intrinsic, not conditional. The book ultimately teaches that single life is not a waiting room; it is a stage ripe with opportunity, independence, creativity, community, and growth.

Jennifer Taitz is a clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety, mindfulness-based treatments, and evidence-based strategies for emotional health. She holds advanced training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behavior Therapy and serves as a faculty member at major institutions where she teaches clinicians and conducts research. Taitz has written extensively on emotional resilience, self-acceptance, and well-being, and she is recognized for translating psychological research into compassionate, practical guidance. Her work blends scientific rigor with real-world application, helping readers develop actionable skills for living meaningful lives—whether single or partnered.