How to Not Die Alone

How to Not Die Alone teaches that love is a choice and a skill. It demands self-awareness, emotional maturity, intentionality, vulnerability, and persistence. The happiest couples aren’t the ones who found perfection — they’re the ones who committed to improving themselves, rewriting their beliefs about love, and consciously building connection instead of waiting for magic.

Love is not discovered. Love is constructed.

It is built in thousands of ordinary moments — not in grand cinematic moments of fate. Anyone can build it, but only if they are willing to take responsibility for their patterns, act courageously, choose intentionally, and nurture relationships long after the honeymoon phase ends.

You do not die alone by luck — you avoid dying alone by choosing to show up for love again and again.

Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist, author, dating coach, and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge. She previously worked at Google’s behavioral economics lab, where she studied human decision-making and cognitive biases. Ury applies psychological research to modern dating challenges, using evidence-based frameworks rather than intuition or cliché advice. She blends real client experiences, neuroscience, sociology, and relationship research to empower people to create lasting love intentionally rather than waiting for it accidentally.