The 5 Love Languages Book Summary

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In the modern-day world, it is not uncommon for people to have multiple relationships, marriages, and divorces. That’s why now, more than ever, it is important for people to learn the five love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. When a person knows their partner’s love language and can implement it into the relationship, it will make their partner feel loved and appreciated to help create a stronger and more understanding bond.

About the Author

Gary Chapman is an American author and radio talk show host. He is most known for his The Five Love Languages series based on human relationships. He works as a senior associate at Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. He is a graduate of Moody Bible Institute and gained a master’s in anthropology from Wheaton College and from Wake Forest University. He received a Master of Religious Education and Doctor of Philosophy degrees in adult education from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary.

His book, The Five Love Language, has sold over 11 million copies in English and ranks in the top 5 books on the New York Times bestsellers list. His “The Five Love Languages” teaches people that love can be expressed through one of five ways. He is the writer of The Five Languages of Apology with Dr. Jennifer Thomas, about receiving and giving apologies. He also wrote The 5 Languages in the Workspace with Dr. Paul White, which applies the concept to work relationships. He is a worldwide speaker on topics such as marriage, family and relationships and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations.

He has two children with Karolyn Chapman.

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There are a million different things that make people feel loved.

But, all of these things can be categorized into five long languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

In order to make your relationship as strong as possible, Gary Chapman, in his book, “The Five Long Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts,” explains how by knowing your partner’s love language or love languages, you will be able to satisfy them on a deeper level.

“For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life.”

― Gary Chapman

We don’t all speak the same language, and the same goes for our love languages. So dive into Chapman’s insights to learn how to please your partner and create a stronger bond.

After the Wedding

Oftentimes, couples meet, fall in love quickly, leap into marriage, and have their love fade as quickly as it started.

And, couples who experience this are often at a loss of what to do. As much as they try to please their partners, they are unable to. But, why is that?

“What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.”

― Gary Chapman

It’s simple, the partners are not speaking the same love language.

If you are not speaking the love language that your partner responds to, then the love you felt at the beginning will inevitably burn out.

Partners who do not feel the love from their partner will end up feeling resentful, start arguments, and want to cut ties.

The only way to save a relationship is to make sure you are speaking the same love language.

Make Sure Your Partner Always Feels Loved

Chapman calls the love your relationship holds a ‘love tank’ and he argues that a love tank should be full, not empty, just like the gas tank in your car.

The love tank is where all the memories of love are held. And, just like a gas tank if you start to run on empty during a toxic or bumpy time in a relationship, you are essentially running on fumes.

Oftentimes, in long-term relationships love tanks start to deplete. The initial spark of love begins to fade and partners are at a loss of what to do. This is where people become complacent.

It’s usually not the case of a partner not feeling love toward their significant other. But, rather them not knowing how to show it in a language their significant other understands.

For example, to show your love maybe you are spending time with them watching TV after breakfast on a Sunday, when really doing the dishes after the meal would show that you love and appreciate them.

If you learn your partner’s love language or love languages, you will be able to keep each other’s love tanks full.